In many family systems, drama serves to hold the family together.
Many clients find this representation of changing roles in a family helpful as they begin to realize they want to identify as survivors instead of victims.
Relationship Drama?
Karpman’s Drama Triangle can help you Evaluate Your Role
During long-term conflict, people often switch between these roles, keeping the cycle going. The model helps us understand how we contribute to conflict–and once we see these patterns, we are able to learn to break out of these patterns. Look for signs of guilt, shame, or blame as places to begin exploring. Acknowledging “the issue is never the issue” helps discover “hidden” toxic agendasExplore signs of these roles, how and they feel in your bodyInstead of staying in the triangle, youbegin to change your brain and your patterns, working to “round the edges.”As you become aware and responsible for your own emotions, feelings, thoughts, and actions you can develop healthier relationships and better problem-solving and coping skills.
Relationship Health: {Pause} + Respond (vs Immediate Reaction)
Neuroscience tells us that our brains are capable of change. The first step in getting unstuck from a repeating pattern is to become aware of the situation and then work to explore and examine the beliefs behind our actions. When we are self-aware, our “owlbrain” is in charge and allows us to react from the wisdom of our best inner wise Self (yes, with a capital S). When we have a healthy sense of Self, we are able to be assertive, caring, and vulnerable while staying grounded and supporting a sense of felt safety.
“You are more than a leaf on the wind.” -Hal Robinson
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